KAFKA AND MARRIAGE. Frailty, lack of self-confidence, and guilt feelings.
First of all, you place my failure to marry among my other failures. I wouldn’t object to that, as long as you accept the explanation for my failures which I have offered. My failure to marry is part of that chain, but you underestimate the significance of this matter to such an extent that when we speak of it, we actually speak of different things. I dare say nothing ever happened to you in your whole life which had such significance for you as my attempts to marry had for me…
(Source: Letter to my Father, text on www.kafka.org; my translation)